When it comes to meeting women, nice guys finish last. This isn’t an invitation to act like a dating douche, but you’ll be surprised how much an obsession with being a “nice guy” is holding back your success with women.
Let’s take a look at why it goes down the way it does. Because, I know, a lot of this stuff doesn’t make automatic sense.
Do You Get Stuck With Too Many Friends Who Are Girls…
…when you really want more girlfriends? No doubt, it’s great to have people around you, who want to spend time with you. But how many of these women want to date or sleep with you?
And likewise, how many of your women friends do you want to hook up with, even if they’re hot? There’s a point where it gets weird with your female buddies, and you both know it.
Do You Base Your Self Esteem On How Others See You?
You may be wondering why being nice is a bad thing, well here’s the secret.
Wanting people to like you, above all else, can be a huge sign of low self-esteem. You can easily get caught up in worrying about what others think, and it can come off as desperate. This is not what you need when you’re trying to date hot women.
Women generally want a man to show confidence and strength, and while this can come from a number of approaches, being too keen to seek their approval won’t cut it.
If you want other people to let you know they like you, just for the purpose of feeling better about yourself, it can also seem a bit selfish. Again, this is not what you need for dating beautiful women.
Does Being A Nice Guy Affect How You Expect To Be Treated By Women?
Because this nice guy syndrome is really about being nice to people, for the sake of approval, acclaim or acceptance, you probably expect everyone else to crave approval too
Well, you may be a people pleaser, keen to get people to think of you in a positive way, just to get some self esteem. But you can’t expect that from a hot confident woman. Dating beautiful women, you can’t expect them to crave your approval or fall over themselves to make you think they’re nice.
An attractive woman knows that her values and confidence come from within, and to be quite frank- she’s probably got limited time and space for people being ‘nice’ as a way of getting something. Chances are, they get this every day, from men of all types. Can you imagine how tedious that’d get?
What’s A “Nice Guy” To Do?
First off, try to get used to being honest and up-front with women, rather than worrying about pleasing. Remember that confidence and self-belief are far more attractive.
Only when you can do this can you develop your skills with approaching women. Sometimes women will try to put you in a position where you’ll need to disappoint them. Often, this is a test. Whatever you do, don’t buckle under the pressure; they’ll respect your honesty so much more.
And remember, it’s not about becoming a douche, it’s about becoming someone who can be respected for their opinions, confidence and self-assured attitude. Nice guys finish last but confident guys finish on top.
By the way- i was a ‘nice guy’ once. I still have plenty of friends and more women to date than my nice guy self ever dreamt of. No sweat there then!
How did I go from being a hopeless nice guy to dating hot women? Well, it all started when I checked out some info from this Dating & Attraction website . Without that site, I’d still be trying to please everyone, without getting much luck with women, or even understanding why it wasn’t working out.
Now, I’m not so obsessed with being nice, consider this my good deed for the day, and go get your sorry ass up to speed on how to meet the woman (or women) of your dreams!